How to Enjoy Life and Have Good Days
The Bible says: “For
let the person who wants to enjoy life and have good days keep his tongue free
from evil and his lips from treachery and deceit. Let him turn away from wickedness and shun
it, and let him do right. Let him search
for peace and go after it eagerly.” (1
Peter 3:10-11)
I think we all want to have a good life. This verse gives four things a person can do
to have a good life. 1.) Keep your
tongue free from evil. 2.) Turn away from wickedness. 3.) Do
what is right. and 4.) Search for peace.
The first principle – keeping our tongue free from evil – is
more difficult to accomplish than it might appear. Our words are powerful – they can bring life
and blessing into the lives of others or they can bring misery and death. Our words come out of what is in our hearts
so that is why it is so difficult to control our words. If our hearts aren’t right, you guessed
it. Our words won’t come out right
either!
So we not only need to watch our words but we also need to
watch our hearts. If we have the habit
of being anxious about how we are going to take care of ourselves, it can cause
us trouble .There is nothing wrong with taking care of ourselves and our loved
ones, in fact we are supposed to work hard to care for ourselves and our
families. But I said “anxious”
self-care. We do our very best and then we
ask God to do what we can not do and trust Him to see us through. This following scripture illustrates how ugly
words and trouble come in through anxious self-care.
“You are jealous and want what others have and your desires
go unfulfilled: so you become murderers.
You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain what you want,
so you fight and war. You do not have,
because you do not ask.” (James 4:1-2) We are encouraged here to pray to God and ask
Him for the things that we need or want instead of fighting with one another.
Joyce Meyer in her book “Life without Strife” writes: “We
can live our lives trying to take care of ourselves or we can trust God to take
care of us. God want to take care of us!
…Self-care leads to strife. Trusting God
leads to peace. The strife resulting
from self-care will ultimately destroy the people who have failed to trust in
God for His care.
When things seem out of control and when people are taking advantage
of us or harming us we want to strike out and put them down. If they fight dirty then we want to fight
dirty back. But anxious self-care does
not produce supernatural results. We
need supernatural results in our lives that only God can give! We need to give God our problems and ask for
His guidance. The Bible tells us: “Cast
all of your cares upon Him, because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) Scripture teaches us that God is our defense
and our vindicator and our reward, (Psalm 27:1: 59:9 and Matt. 22:44) We need
to let God be God in our lives!
God has given strong promises to those who love Him. When we are in trouble we can stand on these
promises and be comforted. One of my favorites
is: “Fear not for I am with you, be not afraid for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes I will help you,
yes, I will uphold you with the right Hand of My righteousness.” (Isaiah 41:10)
There are other things we can do to “keep our tongues from
evil”. Scripture says: “Be kind to one
another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as Christ has forgiven
you.”(Ephesians 4:32) Our hearts and our words need to be ruled with the law of
kindness.
And we also need to
keep our words truthful. One of the Ten
Commandments states: “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor”
(Exodus 20:16) We will live the good life when we go after the truth and when we
are kind and caring and forgiving of others.
The second thing we need to do to enjoy a good life is to”
turn away from wickedness”, according to our verse in 1 Peter. And when Jesus
taught us the Lord’s Prayer (Matt.6:9-13) He also taught us to ask for God’s
deliverance from evil. Staying away from
all appearances of evil is a recurring theme throughout Scripture. We may believe that we aren’t at risk for
playing with evil. We don’t even get
near evil we tell ourselves. We are
upstanding folks – we don’t rob banks or harm others. But don’t be too sure! Think again!
Destructive attitudes and angry hatreds can slip into our hearts and minds
when we least expect them to and hide out under our radar screen. And soon we are dancing with the devil.
Scripture says: “For
wherever there is jealousy and contention, there will also be confusion and all
sorts of evil and vile practices. (James 3:16)
As we live our lives we will have temptations. Dark clouds can descend upon us. Along our way we are sure to encounter
disagreements and arguments and troubles. We can count on it! And these hateful surprises can cause us to
hate back in return and our joy and our peace and our good life is gone. .
When we least expect it friends betray us; family members
stop speaking, insults hurt our feelings. With the pain and confusion we become angry
and judgmental. And if we are not on
guard, the love that burned so brightly in our heart for these dear ones can
grow cold. Yes, the temptations will
come!
Like James 3:16
says,-where arguments and jealousy are in the mix, the door is opened to evil
and vile practices..We don’t win the argument so we become jealous because we are
competitive and winning is important to us!
We are angry that we aren’t getting our way and they think we are
wrong! Why is it so difficult to be
wrong? So important to be right? Does our pride make it easy for evil to get
in the door? Pride will trip us up every
time!
We must be vigilant – watchful – staying away from evil is
not as easy as we thought! We are in a
war – a spiritual war - onward Christian soldiers! We have to constantly humble ourselves and keep
giving our egos to Christ - hide in Him- give Him our problems and keep giving
them to Him when we take them back. He
can take care of our problems no matter how impossible they appear and He
promises that He will even if we don’t see it until after we die. But we will
be victorious in Him! We can count on
it! .
The third rule for enjoying a good life according to our
scripture verse is: “Do what is right.”
Sounds so simple! But watch out,
it’s harder than you think to do right! Joyce
Meyer writes in “Life without Strife”; “The decision to do right must follow
the decision to stop doing wrong. It may
appear that the one automatically follows the other, but it doesn’t. Both are definite choices. Repentance is two-fold: it requires turning
away from sin and turning to righteousness.
Some people turn from their sin, but they never make the decision to
start doing right. As a result, they are
lured back into sin.” (p. 79) So we must make a choice to do good! And keep
making that choice!
And the fourth principle for good living in first Peter is,
“Search for peace.” Here we are told to
“search” for peace. We must go out after
it and work for it. To have a peaceful
resolution to a problem requires wanting it, picturing it, believing in it,
praying for it negotiating for it, humbly giving up something for it, not
insisting on always having your own way!
When people are treating us badly we feel like fighting
back. Such a natural reaction but then
Scripture tells us to “search for peace.” Jesus teaches us a different way to
fight our battles. He spoke these words:
“But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” (Matt.5:44)
This is a new way of thinking!
Jesus came to open up a “new and living way.” (Heb.10:20) We are to minister life instead of death. We are to be peacemakers.
Living and enjoying God’s “good life” requires fighting a
spiritual battle. And we can not fight this battle on our own. Our victory is in Christ so we must fight our
battles in Him. Jesus tells us: “I am the Vine and you are the branches. If any person remains in Me and I in him/her,
that person will bear much fruit. For
apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)
We can’t do anything outside of Christ!
But if we stay close to Him – in Him – we will bear much fruit. He is the one who fights our battles. And He always wins!
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