Why aren’t all our Prayers Answered the Way we Want?
Scripture tells us to pray to God because He wants to have a
personal relationship with us. As our
heavenly Father He loves us and wants our love in return. In short, through prayer God ushers us into
His world and we invite Him into ours.
Through prayer God wants to guide our lives, give away His
power, partner with us in His work in the world, and comfort us in our sorrows:
but He never insists on doing these things if we refuse His advances. God is a reluctant intervener and He woos us
and then waits. Waits for our
response. And then waits some more. He won’t barge in without our acceptance of
Him. The kingdom advances through grace
and freedom. And we have been given the
freedom to do whatever we want.
As our Father, God creates us in His image! Because God has free will He creates us to
have free will also. We are not robots
but are free to open our lives to God and allow Him to lead us and we are also free
to keep our lives to ourselves and shut God out. By opening a door to the Lord’s call we allow
the Holy Spirit into our lives. One of
the names of the Holy Spirit is “Counselor” and when He comes into our lives,
among other things He acts as our counselor.
We know that a
counselor communicates subtly, and that is what our Holy Spirit does. Scripture says that He goes about feeding
ideas into our minds, inspiring us to choose better, sensitizing us to
another’s need, leading us gently into the truth. Our free will is always left in tact. Although this partnership with God may not
appear to be dramatic from the outside looking in, having the Holy Spirit in
our life makes it possible for believers in Jesus to become close to Him.
Here are a few things that the apostle Paul said about how
it is when we open up to God and submit to His Spirit coming into our lives. “It is God who works in you to will and to
act according to His good purpose.” (Philippians 2:13) “I no longer live, but
Christ lives in me.” (Galatians 2:20) “For we are God’s workmanship, created in
Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephesians
2:10) This partnership between God and his followers binds so tightly that it
becomes difficult to distinguish who is doing what, God or the human
partner. God has come that close!!
If this sounds a bit mysterious that is because it is. Prayer and our relationship with God is a
mystery. According to Scripture it seems
that God wants to do much of his work in the world through us humans. God could have set up creation with very
different rules. He could have decided
to override our errors and intervene spectacularly. To do everything Himself and leave us on the
sidelines. Or God might have, as the
deists believe, set the world in motion and then gone away leaving us to take
care of everything by ourselves. If God
did everything leaving us out or if we did everything leaving God out then
prayer would become irrelevant.
But instead God has relied on human partners to do His work
and to advance His kingdom and that is wonderful and exciting but it can get
messy sometimes! God does little on
earth without the likes of you and me.
Scripture says that we are Christ’s body on earth – His hands and feet! And that is one of the reasons we have this
marvelous mysterious gift of prayer.
Prayer is not just placing orders for goods and expecting
God to be the big bell boy in the sky who delivers what we asked for! Yes, Scripture tells us to “Ask and it will
be given, “Seek and you shall find, Knock and it will be opened to you,” (Matthew 7:7) We are to ask in “Christ’s Name”
and we are to know that our timeless God who sees the bigger picture may answer
our prayers in ways that we can’t imagine.
We can stomp our feet and get discouraged with prayer and with God
because He doesn’t answer the way we think He should or as soon as we want. Or we can trust God no matter what and keep
believing that He is answering even though His ways are a mystery to us. .
Yes, how God answers prayer is a mystery and we don’t know
how to unravel the mystery! We read a
story in Scripture that hints at this mystery - these built-in limitations in
prayer! In Luke 22:31 we read that Jesus
informs Peter that Satan has asked to sift him as wheat, - in other words Satan
wants to try to undermine Simon Peter’s faith.
(Peter’s name was Simon until Jesus gave him “Peter” as his new
name.) But Jesus tells Peter that He
will pray for him that his faith will stay strong through Satan’s testing.
We wonder why Jesus didn’t put his foot down and just say
“No” to Satan. Why didn’t Jesus just deny
Satan’s request to test Peter! Or why didn’t
Jesus miraculously give Peter the strength so that he could withstand the
sifting? Instead Jesus prays that
Peter’s faith will not fail. And even
after Jesus prays for Peter’s faith not to fail, it fails three times when
Peter denied Jesus three times after He was arrested!
Satan’s asking Jesus for permission to test Peter is very
similar to Satan asking God for permission to mess up Job! Satan tells God that Job only worships God
because God has given Job so many blessings.
If those blessings are taken away from Job, Satan tells God that Job
will curse God to his face! (Job 1:9-11) God allows Satan to work some mischief with
Job but forbids him to take Job’s life. And
then God waits to see how Job responds.
Will he fail or pass the test?
Peter and Job both get caught up in a drama of spiritual
warfare so outside their realm that neither I am sure could fathom it! And we cannot fathom these things either! Because we read that Satan asked to mess with
Peter and Job, could he ask to mess with other believers too? You and me? It’s a great puzzle that we cannot even begin
to understand! Our place is to trust God
to answer our prayers anyway He sees fit and know that He can work things
together for good, even though it may not seem good to us for the time being.
Philip Yancey writes: “Why does God “sit on his hands” while
Satan works mischief, while evil tyrants oppress good people, while a traitor
delivers God’s own Son to the enemy? The
Bible draws a strong contrast between the freedom-crushing style of evil and
the freedom respecting style of good.”
Philip Yancey, Prayer, Does It Make Any difference? P. 84-85.
Yancey writes: “”Why does God so rarely step in and bring
miraculous intervention to our prayer requests?
Why is suffering distributed so randomly and unfairly? No one knows the complete answer to these
questions. For a time, God has chosen to
operate on this broken planet mostly from the bottom up rather than from the
top down – a pattern God’s own Son subjected himself to while on earth. Partly out of respect for human freedom, God
often allows things to play out “naturally.”
Pp. 87
Jesus’ prayer for Peter shows this same pattern. Satan gets his way with Peter and sifts him
like wheat. Peter had been pushy,
enjoyed picking fights and he denied Jesus three times. Did some of Peter’s negative behaviors get
sifted away when Satan tried to shake him up? Did he learn lessons during times of trouble
that he never learned when things were going good? And were Jesus’ prayers for Peter effective
after all? It looks like they were! We read of Peter’s life after Pentecost and
Peter was a changed man! He was one of
the humble leaders of the new Christian church and he no longer ran away from
suffering for the cause of Christ.
Scripture says that Jesus is in heaven praying for us, his
followers. As Jesus once prayed for
Peter, He is now praying for us. Scripture
says that He is “at the right hand of the Father, interceding for us”. (Romans
8:24) That should be a great comfort for
us.
Scripture promises that this pattern of God working in the
background and not always stepping in and answering our prayers with power and
miracles – this pattern is only temporary!
When Jesus comes again things will be different. With His overwhelming power our victorious Jesus
will overthrow evil and Satan and there will be no more sin or sickness or
sorrow or death and all of our prayers will be answered! I can hardly wait!
Some of the ideas in this blog are taken from Philip Yancy’s
book, Prayer, Does it Make Any Difference?